Reconnection and rejuvenation

Wed, October 25, 2006


I almost canceled my “coffee appointment” this morning.

I am ecstatic that I didn’t.

Writing deadlines loom, it’s an early pick-up day at school, laundry beckons (it really does — if it doesn’t get done soon, it will walk out the door on its own to the dry-cleaners!), and a fundraiser I agreed to help out with is this weekend is looming, so E-mails are flying furiously because we don’t yet have enough volunteers to man the silent auction! :O

I had made arrangements a couple of weeks ago to meet at the closest Starbucks after morning drop-off with another mom at school I really like. Unfortunately, the extent of our connections have only been at school — a quick chat on the playground, lamenting about the getting-out-the-door-on-time routine, etc. Just snippets of interactions stolen when the kids weren’t looking, really.

So, I figured it was time to do something about that.

I am SOOOO glad that I didn’t reschedule. We spent the best two hours (yes, two hours!) over coffee that I’ve had in a long time. Having a little extra “me” time to connect with someone outside my usual world of business E-mails and telephone calls — having an actual face-to-face conversation with someone just for the fun of it, and not for an article I’m writing — was rejuvenating and exhilarating! (I know, I really do need to get out more often).

The funny thing is that I do get out. Dear Hubby and I do make a pretty regular practice of having date nights, but there hasn’t been as much time for cultivating my friendships with women.

After this morning’s talk, I’m actually pumped to start working this afternoon and the rest of the week to meet that deadline! Rather than feeling like I should have been writing during those couple of hours, I have a sense of regenerated purpose and motivation.

Maybe that sounds a bit sad and perhaps a little extreme. But now I know that I had better put something like this on my schedule every couple of weeks so I feel like there’s more to my life than work crunches, picking up the dry cleaning and afternoon snack time.

Don’t let me forget, OK?

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8 Responses to “Reconnection and rejuvenation”

  1. Kelley Says:

    I hear ya. I am the least socially pro-active person in the world, and it is easy for me to go weeks without much face-to-face social interaction with anyone besides my husband. But when I do make the effort, I always go home thinking, “That was so much fun – I need to do this more often!”

    And then I stay home for three weekends in a row.

    So good for you for making the effort to relax for a few hours and make a new friend! (That last part sounded really canned and cheesy on the re-read, but you get my meaning.)

  2. Mixter Says:

    Hanging out with a non-related female is a rarity for me. Fortunately, I really like my mom and my sister a lot! Oh yeah, and my daughter — she’s 16, so she’s almost a human now! ;)


  3. Paige Says:

    Trust me, as a fellow freelancer and mom, I know it’s sometimes easier to be a hermit. Glad to hear you fought the urge to cancel your appt, though. The good company, coffee and change of scenery often do me some good too!

  4. jen Says:

    don’t you love it when that happens…we all need to slow down and remember the stuff that should matter more..simple pleasures with others.

  5. Jonathon Says:

    I’m the same. Anytime I meet anyone for social purposes, I feel like some minor miracle has occurred.

  6. vasilisa Says:

    Human communication is so important. I used to take it for granted back in university. And when I had a regular job. Now, if I want to connect, I have to go through babysitting/time scheduling/place picking and all the other arrangments, that lead to virtually no contact with people who are not family. And I really miss that.

    Who knew that getting together with your girlfriends can be such a positive boost?

  7. Nancy Says:

    As a hard-core introvert, I sometimes put off meeting with people (even close friends who I really like) because I am nervous about how the interaction will go. But 9 times out of 10 I have such a great time that I realize I should do it more often.

    Glad you had fun — we’ll have to plan our own coffee get-together one of these days!

  8. PunditMom Says:

    Kelley, I do the same thing and am trying to break out of my shell.

    Paige, Freelancing is a tough gig, I have found, and it’s easier to just be in my hole than venutre out. But I’m trying to do better.

    Nancy, since we’re close geographically, we should definitely hook up one of these days. That would be great!

    Thanks to everyone else for all their comments. It has been SOOOO helpful to know I’m not the only one battling the work-at-home/being-in-a-cave blues!

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