Apparently, there was never any need to have this war.
It’s one that’s been created by those in power, for their own interests and we can start de-escalating right now!
I almost missed this piece in the New York Times last week called, “Mommy Books: More Buzz Than Buyers.”
Turns out, that even though there’s plenty of press on the topic, and many of us spend time discussing the likes of Leslie Bennetts, Caitlin Flanagan and countless others, they are not getting rich on their book profits. According to the Times story, Flanagan only sold 9,000 copies of her most recent book and my arch nemesis Linda Hirshman only sold 4,000 copies of hers! Hardly a revolution, in either direction.
So why so much attention to this purported trend that isn’t a trend? Because it gets us all anxious and helps to sell those books.
For a long time, I’ve thought that this was a conversation that only a handful of the most foruntate mothers can have — the “dilemma” of whether to work a full-time job or stay home and care for the kids. Most women in this country don’t even have the luxury of that conversation.
My thoughts were echoed by by Arianna Huffington in my Q&A with her:
” … [T]his whole debate is rather elitist. Most women don’t have the luxury of choosing whether they work or stay at home. They have to work. The key thing is that we, as a society, owe women equal respect for whatever choice they make. And, as women, we need to support each other in making this decision… not spend so much time pointing accusatory fingers at those who choose to follow a different road than we have.”
I think that about sums it up. “War” over. Truce called. Everyone move along! Let’s get back to what comes more naturally — supporting each other, whatever we decide to do with our lives.
Let’s create a market for THAT kind of book!