Hi everyone, Mojo Mom here. I am honored to be sitting at PunditMom’s virtual keyboard today. The friendship that she and I have developed is one great example of a connection that was enabled by the blogosphere. As I recently wrote on my CNET blog, it is frustrating that the mass media hasn’t quite caught on to the amazing things that women are doing online.
I think the Mom-blogosphere gets the real short-shrift. This week Newsweek had a disappointing article, “Yummy vs. Slummy,” which used mommy-lit novels as a prime representation of women’s conversations about motherhood. That made no sense to me and I blogged about it on MojoMom.com. Why not look online for insight? That’s where there are really thoughtful current discussions going on. For isolated Moms, or women who have limited free time for themselves (wait, that might be all of us!) life online allows us to stay connected.
Blogs are vital and dynamic and can breathe new life into books. I started writing my book Mojo Mom: Nurturing Your Self While Raising a Family before blogging was invented. Now I can’t imagine having a book without a blog. I am happy to say that I stand by what I wrote in Mojo Mom, but at the same time my thinking has evolved, and the discussions about motherhood have really taken off. Through my blog I have been able to follow developments such as the publication of Perfect Madness, the so-called “Mommy Wars” and “Opt-Out Revolution” and all of their ramifications, controversies with Linda Hirshman and Leslie Bennetts, and welcome developments such as the launching of the activist organization MomsRising.org and new social networking site The Motherhood.
How has my thinking changed the most since publishing my book? I view the “choice” of whether to work or to stay at home differently than I once did. It is completely understandable that women feel that they are making informed individual choices. We are empowered people who want to feel like active agents in our own lives. It makes me crazy when some authors overlook this fact. Yet at the same time, if we ignore larger social pressures at work, we miss the big picture.
Finally a thoughtful, persuasive book has come out that has helped illuminate the situation. While of course I would love for all of you in PunditMomLand to read Mojo Mom, I want to recommend Opting Out? Why Women Really Quit Careers and Head Home by Pamela Stone, Ph. D. as the best new book of 2007. I think it’s the true inheritor of the legacy of The Feminine Mystique. Finally a book that working Moms and stay-at-home Moms can read together, that won’t make them want to pull out their own hair….or each others’!
PunditMom, we all hope you are enjoying your vacation and we can’t wait to hear about it when you get home.
–posted by Amy Tiemann, firstname.lastname@example.org