I would have bet on the Mommy Wars until things got just a teensy little bit out of control over at the Silicon Valley Moms Blog this week.
In a nutshell:
SVMom blogger Rebecca picked up on the New York Times piece about children on the campaign trail and decided to engage in a smackdown worthy of the WWF with Elizabeth Edwards. To say she criticized Elizabeth Edwards about her choices to go on the campaign trail with her children while she has cancer would be an understatement.
She called Edwards a “terrible” mother for that choice (though Rebecca later said she “changed her mind” on that one.) She also took on John Edwards and called for him to get out of the race since he’s just a spoiler for Clinton and Obama. It was quite an attack and I’m not sure what Rebecca thought she was going to accomplish. Criticism about presidential candidates is fair game, but is it really OK to go after a mom with cancer because you don’t personally agree with her parenting choices?
If she had only asked me ahead of time, I could have told her that Elizabeth Edwards would definitely take her out in a one-on-one match. Rebecca didn’t stand a chance.
Elizabeth Edwards, who, if you read about her speech at BlogHer you’ll know, has a Google Alert for her name (don’t we all?). So she saw this post and commented quite eloquently about the fact that no one has a right to criticize her, or any other woman, for their personal choices about mothering. You can find the link to her comment on my post about this over at D.C. Metro Moms Blog (which is a sister site of Silicon Valley Moms Blog).
Rebecca contended in some follow-up comments that, HEY, she was just trying to take a snarky and humorous approach to this story. Heh-heh!
That’s OK, but the more things heated up, the more Rebecca kept backing away from her original comments. She seemed a little amazed at all the attention her post got. But, if you’re going to put “snarky” and, I think, hurtful comments on your blog, especially about high profile people, you need to expect that you’re going to be called on the carpet.
So what do you think? Is it fair game for women bloggers to question Elizabeth Edwards’ decisions about taking her kids on the campaign trail? Is it fair to question what any mother decides about how to spend her time with her children?