Nigella Lawson has apparently hit a nerve in Britain.
Some of her fans think she’s crossed the line from her figure being “womanly” to just plain old fat.
Sound harsh? It’s no secret that Lawson, the cookbook queen and self-proclaimed Domestic Goddess, is proudly on the zaftig side. But according to one news report, viewers of her latest show have been complaining that they think she’s packing on the pounds in an unhealthy way.
Nigella’s response? Maybe she has gained a few, she says, “but in real life, this is normal size.”
Lawson wonders, in response to those critics, when did the “great god of skinny” topple that of beauty?
A larger question might be, why are we all so critical of our shapes, no matter what they are? Not a great topic to raise in the midst of our holiday season affair with food, but it seems we hate the skinny girls, we mock the fat girls and we’re always checking the scale to see if we’ve shed an ounce here or there — when do we get to be happy with ourselves the way we are right in this moment?
I’m just as guilty of this whole game as any other woman. There are times when it’s hard not to be worried about weight, like when those jeans just don’t fit they way they used to. When I worked up the courage to say something to my doctor at last month’s annual visit, I asked about how my weight compared to the visit before that. She looked up quickly from her chart, stared me in the eye and said, “You’re not trying to lose weight, are you?”
According to my doctor and the BMI charts, I’m JUUUSST right. But it’s hard not to be self-critical as I make my way through my forties and my body takes on a different shape than it had 20 years ago. How have we gotten to a place where those of us who fit neatly onto those height/weight charts are worried about how we look, too?
Perhaps our gift to ourselves this December should be to embrace Nigella’s attitude and get more comfortable in our skins and enjoy our holiday indulgences like the pleasures of homemade cookies and other goodies we only get this time of year.
We should be able to have treats sometimes and not be constantly obsessed with weight. What a great holiday gift that would be!