Comments on: Non-Mom? Really? Are You Sure You Want to Go There?

By: Susie

Susie — Wed, 28 May 2008 22:15:00 +0000

I can only imagine what comment discussion ensued here that it needed to be deleted. As any mother should be, I am completely offended by that term that we will no longer say out loud. Really, how did that get past any thinking person before airing. Did not one person say, “Hey guys? Do you think we should rethink this ‘non-mom’” reference? Someone might be offended?” Thanks for putting all your thoughts together in such a well-written/non-ranting way.

By: PunditMom

PunditMom — Thu, 15 May 2008 12:40:00 +0000

My point was this — moms are moms are moms. There should be no labels, no matter what “kind” of mother we are.

By: Shelley P

Shelley P — Thu, 15 May 2008 02:42:00 +0000

Dear PunditMom:

While I certainly appreciate your offense at the "non-mom" term, I dare say that I know a hundred women that have been labeled "Non-mom" since the day they signed the papers which allowed you (collectively adoptive moms) become moms. While many of us were fortunate enough to have children after the loss of the child you subsequently raised, many did not for various reasons. And what are they? How do they feel when Mother's Day rolls around? The adoptive issue is certainly a delicate one for moms on BOTH sides of the adoption fence.

Just feeling the need to speak up for the silent moms that made your joy possible!

By: Asianmommy

Asianmommy — Wed, 14 May 2008 18:45:00 +0000

“Non-mom” is a horrible way to describe a person who’s obviously a mom. Your daughter is your daughter, and she’s beautiful.

By: Vivian M

Vivian M — Wed, 14 May 2008 11:24:00 +0000

Thank you for putting this so eloquently into words. Unfortunately, they did go there. And it is a reminder of just how much more I need to protect our daughter.

By: sarah

sarah — Wed, 14 May 2008 01:04:00 +0000

So very real.

So agree with you!

By: Karin

Karin — Tue, 13 May 2008 23:19:00 +0000

Yeah, I am an expecting non-mom. Thanks for quoting me in your post. Feel free to say hi some time.

By: bellevelma

bellevelma — Tue, 13 May 2008 22:14:00 +0000

I thought non-mom’s were women who didn’t have any kids, period.

Who cares how you got the kids. If you have to care for them, cook for them, feed them, wash their clothes, pick up their toys, help with homework, etc… then you’re a MOM.

By: Don and Be

Don and Be — Tue, 13 May 2008 21:37:00 +0000

Hopefully, when Father’s Day rolls around, the mental giants at NBC & Tele-Florist will have a better grasp of cute terminology as this prospective Stay-at-Home-Dad ain’t freakin’ ready for any ‘Mr Mom’ classification. Our daughter has a mother whose name is Be & a father whose name is Don – it’s as easy as that (although I do kinda’ like the title “HomeDaddy”).
So be ready Matt, Ann and whoever the heck the rest of you are – try anything like this on Father’s Day and the hammer’s comin’ down.
HomeDaddy Don
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BTW- GREAT POST! KUDOS!

By: DD

DD — Tue, 13 May 2008 21:22:00 +0000

"moms who are indeed real moms to their children in every sense of the word"

That was the most back-handed insult by adding that to their apology! All they did was say, "Yeah, I'm sure you're real to your kids, but not to the rest of the 'normal' sections of our society..."

In my case, pregnant via donor egg, this is one reason why I fear being open with my children when they are ready: how they could end up with these ridiculous labels.

Thanks, Plain Jane Mom, for this link.