I’m Trying to Believe It’s Not Because I Turned 50

Wed, December 3, 2008

Moms & Politics

I’ve been joking over the last year about my march toward the big 5-0, which did arrive, as it must, two months ago. Things were generally humming along OK before that, especially because there are still people who tell me that for my age, I look freakishly young (and I love them for that!)

And then on my birthday we found out my dad has cancer.

They caught it early and it’s one that’s very treatable, so even though it was a shocker, we’ve been pretty positive about his treatment.

After that, though, it seemed like the rest of the dominoes that were so carefully balanced started toppling. I don’t want to go into loads of details for personal and privacy reasons, but suffice it to say that it didn’t take long for me to discover the flip side of the life-is-a-journey-enjoy-the-ride philosophy.

Every morning, I’m a bit afraid to get out of bed or to answer the phone for fear of what will come next.

Insurance cards are getting quite a work out and it’s not putting a good spin on this aging gracefully thing. Not to mention the fact that for the first time in my life, the next President of the United States will be younger than me!

As I try to stay positive with embracing the new decade, I can’t help being just a little freaked out, as well. Good friends, whose ages I won’t reveal but who are a smidgen older than me, are being more than encouraging as I weather this hopefully temporary state of mental and physical health.

Which is good, because you know I have bigger fish to fry!

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14 Responses to “I’m Trying to Believe It’s Not Because I Turned 50”

  1. Professor J Says:

    I’ll be there in a few days.

  2. Blog Antagonist Says:

    I was just reading an article that said with medical advances, improved drug therapies, and greater awareness of health and nutrition, 70 is the new 50. So, really, you’re only 30.

    My thoughts are with your father and your family. Cancer just sucks.

  3. PunditMom Says:

    I tried to tell PunditGirl that 50 was the new 30. She laughed!

  4. Caroline Says:

    Be well PM. And my best to your father.

  5. Mayberry Says:

    I’m so sorry that your dad’s been sick. Mine has something that sounds very similar and he’s doing really well (about 7 mo. post diagnosis).

  6. the mama bird diaries Says:

    I’m sorry for everything you are going through.

  7. anniegirl1138 Says:

    My husband’s late wife’s father is dying and won’t make Christmas in all probability. This will be the third father in law he has lost in just ten months (not to forget his late wife’s mother who died last year on Dec. 1st).

    When I tried to explain to my six year old that yet another elderly member of the family was very ill and not likely to live, this was her response,

    “People get old, Mom, and sick, and this means that God needs them. But not my grandma. God doesn’t need her.”

    I wish that 50 was the new 6.

  8. fudgelady Says:

    Paraphrasing a friend of mine: “You’re not 50 — you’re just 20 (for the 30th time).”

    I hope your dad is okay. Two years ago, my dad had heart surgery on his 75th birthday — also a shocker! We saw a lot of dominoes topple over the next year, too, but now things have righted themselves and everyone is well.

    It’s not the most pleasant way to be reminded to savor every minute we have with our family, but it sure made the message clear.

    Warmest wishes to you and yours this holiday season. Take care –

  9. Tresor De Beaute Says:

    Happy Big 5-0!! I still have a little less than a quarter century to get there, nevertheless you’re an inspiration to many of us,keep up the good work and stay the fabulous self your are.

  10. Fibro Witch Says:

    My thoughts are with your father. I hope your health insurance is going to continue being part of the solution.

    My health insurance provider has turned into part of the problem. I honestly think I spend more time dealing with them than I do with my doctor.

  11. impromptublogger Says:

    So sorry about your Dad. We have an older friend who is dying of pancreatic cancer. He’d been in chemo for several years but now it’s the end of the road for him.

    Big hugs to you and your family.

  12. PunditMom Says:

    anniegirl — I’m sorry about your family situation, but I like your 6 year-old’s response.

  13. BAC Says:

    PM the good news is you’ll always be younger than me!

    Best wishes for your fathers speedy recovery.


  14. BananaBlueberry Says:

    Good thoughts to you and your father and your family :)

    Here’s hoping we run into each other again soon… you freakishly-young-looking mom !

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