Mothers of Intention — Rebekah Spicuglia & NonCustodial Parenting Blog

Rebekah SpicugliaI’m honored to know Rebekah Spicuglia.  We met when she was trying to help PunditMom become more media savvy! Since then, she’s become a friend and still someone I turn to for advice on walking that line between shameless self-promotion and expert use of the media!

But she also has another role — non-custodial mom to her 11-year-old son.  She is the founder of the blog NonCustodial Parent Community and recently was featured in Marie Claire magazine and on the Today Show, helping others to shift their thinking when it comes to non-custodial mothers.

That’s a difficult task when we still live in a time of “Mommy Wars” — too many are still clawing each other on the faux debate of whether it’s better to be a stay-at-home mother or a work in an office mom or something in between.  As a society, we are even more judgmental toward families who have decided that the father is going to be the primary caregiver.

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As Rebekah said in the Marie Claire article, “Motherhood is the most sacred thing in our society. … Mothers like me — well, there isn’t really a dialogue about us. People just don’t even know how to talk about it.”

That’s why I admire Rebekah so much — she isn’t afraid to take on this emotionally and socially charged issue and get us to have a conversation about the fact that there are so many ways to be a good mother. As I’ve said before, let’s be done with the mommy divisiveness and use our powers for good rather than evil!

Photo courtesy Marie Claire magazine.

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6 Responses to “Mothers of Intention — Rebekah Spicuglia & NonCustodial Parenting Blog”

  1. Jonathan Trenn Says:

    Very good points here. As a single dad, it’s always offended me when people think that my ex-wife is a bad mother. She isn’t…she’s a great mom to my son and her two children from her second marriage.

  2. Sheila Hercek Says:

    My brother is the custodal parent of his three children. As a mother now myself I’ve come to realize that his ex-wife isn’t the bad mother I originally thought she was. She may have made decisions and choices that I don’t agree with but she is still the mother of these children and she is being the best one she can be. She deserves respect and credit for that.

  3. Rebekah Says:

    Joanne, thank you so much for these thoughtful words… I’m so honored to be the subject of your Mothers of Intention series, which is so inspiring to me as a mom and activist. You are so supportive and kind, it is really due to my friendship with inspiring women like you that I have been able to also find my voice in the work that I do! <3 XoRebekah

  4. TeenDad Says:

    I’m now 19 and experiencing being a dad. I must say although it feels good it’s still hard. I knew it wouldn’t be easy but to be honest, the hard part is having to balance time. My daughter is great and makes managing her never dreadful. -Teen dad

  5. Mary@Everyday Baby Steps Says:

    Thank you so much for bringing Rebekah and this issue to our attention. It’s one that really hits home for me, as I nearly was a non-custodial mom myself when my ex and I divorced. I needed to relocate closer to my work and felt it was in the best inte and rest of my kids to remain in their home, with their father who worked at their daycare, to keep their routine as normal as possible. It was a gut wrenching decision on my part and I faced a lot of questions from others. In the end, it worked out that the kids came with me, and I see the circumstances that led to that as such a blessing. But I know the judgment that non-custodial mothers face. Bravo, Rebekah!


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